A PAPER PRESENTED AT THE INTERNATIONAL PARENTING SEMINAR ORGANIZED BY ANTOSCIENCE EDUCATIONAL CONSULTANCY HELD ON JUNE 12TH 2019
ACADEMIC MOTIVATION BY IJEOMA ANTONIA ONWUKEME (HOST)
Academic motivation in this context entails ways parents encourage their children, guide them in their academics to achieve positive end. There are many motivation definitions on motivation. Literally, academic motivation is defined by a student's desire regarding academic subjects when the student's competence/capability is judged against a standard of performance of excellence. A parent's interest/encouragement of his or her child's education can affect the child's attitude towards school, classroom conduct, self-esteem, absenteeism and motivation. Parents should stay involved in their children's education from preschool through to high school. Successful people don’t become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance—happiness, wealth, a great career, purpose—is the result of hard work and hustle over time.
To be successful, you have to use each day as an opportunity to improve, to be better, to get a little bit closer to your goals. It might sound like a lot of work—and with a busy schedule, next to impossible. But the best part is, the more you accomplish, the more you’ll want to do, the higher you’ll want to reach. So as long as you have the hunger for success, you will always have the power within you to achieve it. while, some parents are eager to scold the classroom teacher for flogging or administering punishments on his/her child; other parents are busy applying and encouraging disciplinary measures to correct/ eradicate distractions so as to enhance the child's academic performance
Just as I stated above, to be successful you have to use each day as an opportunity to improve. Hence, it is not a day's job. Parents should hunger for success too, use that as a driving force and power within you to achieve it and help your child achieve it
YOUR LIMITATION IS ONLY YOUR IMAGINATION
IT IS PERTINENT TO ALWAYS ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO PUSH HIS/HER SELF BECAUSE NOBODY IS GOING TO DO THAT FOR HIM/HER.
Simply put, Parents can not offer what they do not have likewise, teachers
Do not believe in limitations, by so doing your child looking up to you wont perceive LIMITATION, let alone believe it.
While persuading your ward to do something relevant, do not take “later” for an answer because sometimes it could be never! Most times when you ask your child to do something in this corporate society, you get "later" for an answer. As a parent don't see it as modernization pattern. this is because later could actually be never
Great things never come from comfort zones! Talking about family resources, parents do not have to be wealthy for them to train their child effectively.
Encourage them to go out and get success because, success does not just find you.
Feasible ways to motivate your child for academic success include:
Have them set goals. Make a list of short-term goals and one of the long-term goals. Make sure the goals are reachable but require effort to obtain.
Do not say they are too little to set goals; the earlier the better. As they grow, their goals begin to get a bit complex. Ofcourse, setting of goals helps to focus on the right direction.
In order to reach goals, you need a plan. Help your children create a strategy for reaching their goals. Make a step-by-step plan to reach them.
Encourage healthy competition. Cheer on your child to beat another runner in a race or to take home the trophy from the spelling bee. Make competition about positivity and strength in regards to your child and never about negativity and weakness towards the competitor. Does your child shy away from competition? help your child make the strategic plan to achieve their goal.
Let your child know that you believe in them. Tell them how great they are going to do. Dismiss any self-doubt or fears they may have.
Learn about your child’s interests. Talk to your child about them and listen. It will show your children that you care and that they are free to talk to you about their interests. Always encourage your child, it is good they know that you believe in them. Eradicate low self- esteem- this will boost their self-efficacy. In our society today, parents tend to ignore their wards' interest, especially when it is not inline with their choice of interest. If your child whom you have longed to see become a medical doctor, shares her interest in Journalism, music or Food specialties; kindly pay due attention and direct her properly so as to be fulfilled.
Research studies, first class experience have shown that upon graduation , most Nigerian graduates are not fulfilled.
Encourage your children to discover what they are passionate about. It may take a few tries along the way. Support them on their journey towards passion and urge them to keep going until they find out what it is.
Maintain a positive and optimistic outlook for your children. If they see fear or doubt in your eyes, then they will likely lose self-confidence. Having a positive approach will lighten their entire outlook to a situation.
Be positive and optimistic. You are a model to your child. Do the wrong, your child follows suit, you do it right, same child follows suit
A video presented portrays an image of a child a baked for mummy and the first version of mummy encouraged the child. Years later the child recalled mum's positive spirit and scaled through. The second version of mum, was not positive and optimistic, so years later the child encountered series of failure and recalled mummy seeing him as a failure... awwwww
Occasionally, a little peer pressure is not a bad thing. It can push your child to do better in school or in a sport because they want to keep up with their friends. However, watch for when the stress of peer pressure starts to become too much. The friends of your child could make or mar them. so be mindful of the company your child finds themselves in especially at school.
Excite your children about their goals and ambitions. Show that you are excited for them, too. The positive energy and adrenaline will push them to continue their hard work and be happy with their efforts. Both parents and teachers have the duty to excite their child be it a normal or special child. Every child has that genius potential in him/her. Check out the great inventors, if the classroom teacher or parent had ignored them, what could have happened?
what motivates your child?
A little activity, with a pen and note, write the names of your wards. begine to itemize likely habits and traits observed begin to link them to the likely profession suitable
Where you a victim of studying a course outside your choice or interest just to please your parent(s)?
QUESTION: As a Daddy, how do you make your child (female) tell you her little secrets or concerns instead of her telling her mummy alone.
“It's good to be interested in knowing your child's secret, you are a step ahead. It is not a day success. Start on time to build your child's trust. I have seen female kids who prefer Daddy over mummy. Infact told me the day I taught sex education in class and encouraged her to confide in mum whenever she notice any change in her body. She nearly rebuked me, saying she prefers her Dad. That goes a long way to tell how much the Dad must have done to win her trust. The last two speakers have talked about equality in treatment. Do not shut them down. Encourage them”.
..” It is a product of the father's love and sincere commitment to the female child, if she is sure of your love and trust, she will tell you her little secret instead of her mum. She can only talk to her friend not father or mother in quote”
“As a Daddy if you are friendly and open your kids see you as a cool Dad.
In an informal way ask them about school, ask about their friends and their teachers, show interest in things that happens around them. When the child sees that you are interested in what concerns her, she'll gradually be open to you.”
“Exactly but most father's are busy chasing wealth.”
“As, daddy have more time for her, discuss more often, use folks storey telling to unveil to her the ills of boys and your past, as boy and show more interest on her needs, affairs, and social life.”
“The mother also have roles to play in helping the girl child trust the father. The duo must work together to gain the trust of the kids. With proper synergy, their can even be communion / accountability time between both parent and each child. It is difficult but God bless our efforts in Jesus name”
“If spouse don't trust each other, there is a limit to which we can hide it from the kids because these children are sincere seers. They see beyond the parents imagination. I am pleading with we parents to work in Unity, Love, Sincerity & Fear of God if we want to help our children. If we make mistakes, let the kids see our sincerity so that they can trust us with their challenges too”
But I must explain to you how all this mistaken idea of denouncing pleasure and praising pain was born and I will give you a complete account of the system, and expound the actual teachings of the great explorer of the truth, the master-builder of human happiness. No one rejects, dislikes, or avoids pleasure itself.John Frank